Connect with Christ in Your Everyday Life
There’s a connection between Star Wars, lust, grace and getting back to badass?
Yep. Somehow, I connected those dots in today’s video.
The First Step in Back to Badass: Living Life with Courage, Strength, and Resolve
I would love your feedback!
Was it helpful? Does it feel impossible?
What two things did you take away from this video?
I have the privilege of working at French Camp Academy, a Christian home and boarding school tucked away on the Natchez Trace. My favorite part of working here is getting to know the students.
Our students typically come from difficult home situations. Many of them wrestle with the darkness in their stories, not wanting that darkness to become their identity. So fighting for hope happens here little by little, on a daily basis.
Kat is one of the students I’ve gotten to know this year. I am so proud of her for wanting to share a little of her story.When I read Kat’s words, I see a Hope Warrior being formed.
Hope. Most of the time we don’t think about that word. I had hope to be adopted. I had hope to be loved. Most of the time we hope to make an A or get that job. Sometimes we hope to make that team or get that car.
I had hoped God could change me. He sure did.
I was struggling at home. We were looking for a godly getaway. We found FCA. I hoped it would be good and It was! I love it there.
That is hope.
-Kat, 7th grade
Ever wonder if you’ve got a single badass bone in your body?
Or if the difficult things you’ve been through had any purpose?
Or if you will always feel overwhelmed with your own life?
Then this video is for you!
Welcome to the first video of
Back to Badass: Living Life with Courage, Strength, and Resolve
I’d love to hear your feedback about this video:
After you watch it, I’d LOVE to know:
What are two things that stand out in the information given in this video?
Would an outline or handout be helpful to have?
Thank you so much for helping me make this series even better!
Sometimes there is no script for the things that happen to us in life. We don’t know what to do, so we try to figure it out on our own and just cope. Many times the way that we cope with life events leads us into addictions or into a relationship with an addict.
Addictions happen when we try to numb the pain in our life. We become addicted to the few moments of relief from the pain, and continue to seek out the thing or person that gave us that relief.
Addiction means – the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice. The Latin stem of the word actually means a giving over; to surrender. (dictionary.com)
It is surrendering to the darkness in our life.
Addiction of any kind operates in darkness and fills us with shame, but sexual addiction seems to be controlled by it. Shame is the voice that whispers mean things because it doesn’t want us to come out of the dark. It is a deadly fungus that grows stronger in silence and fear. It covers us like a raincoat so that we can’t feel God’s love raining down on us. It convinces us that hope, joy, forgiveness, and peace are great ideas – for everyone except us.
But here’s the truth about shame. It cannot survive in the light. It will threaten, howl, whine and beg us to stay cowered down in the darkness. But once we step into the light and share our story with others, its death grip begins to loosen.
Out in the light we can hear truth, we can feel God’s love, we can experience compassion from others who are also struggling. We can see that change is possible.
Fighting for hope often feels impossible when addiction is involved, no matter which side of the coin we are on. The truth is the more we fight for hope, the more warrior-like we become.
Hope Warriors push against the darkness, yelling “You will not win!” into the hopelessness that hangs over us like a fog. Hope Warriors let loose that war cry “What you meant for evil, God will use for good!”
Hope Warriors know that whatever is going on right now as you read this, the last chapter has not been written. There is still hope and it is worth fighting for.
Hope begins growing when we realize that the ways we’ve coped and acted all these years are not helping us. It continues to grow as we discover different tools and resources that help us. I want to share two resources with you today.
Forest Benedict writes to men and women stuck in sexual addiction in his book, Life After Lust.
He offers hope and practical direction as he shares his own story of addiction and recovery. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Sexual Addiction Treatment Provider (SATP-C) living in Fresno, CA.
Forest shares the first chapter of his book here.
It is available in digital or paperback through Amazon. Click here to order.
Intimate Treason by Claudia Black, PHD and Cara Tripodi, LCSW is written to women and men who are partners of sex addicts.
“Those who act out sexually – whether through pornography, cybersex, prostitution, voyeurism, and/or multiple affairs – leave their partners reeling in rage, incredible shame, and isolation. In this taboo-shattering and practical guidebook, partners affected by sex addiction can learn to develop healthy boundaries and make positive changes in their lives. The skills-building exercises presented are designed to help partners better understand the disease of addiction and how it is affecting their relationship. Intimate Treason provides a path to healing that gives voice to partners’ truth as they travel on their own journey of recovery.” (summary on back cover)
Intimate Treason is also available through Amazon. Click here to order.
Sexual addiction is like a monster tornado swirling in the middle of a relationship. Although both partners are experiencing the harmful wind and hurling debris, they are each experiencing the tornado in completely different ways. If you or someone you love have been impacted by sexual addiction on either side of the coin, these resources could provide the first step on the road to recovery. Silencing shame and walking in the light takes courage and tenacity, and it brings out the Hope Warrior in us.
Hope is worth fighting for!
Both of these resources are available on Amazon. The links I’ve provided are Amazon Affiliate links, which doesn’t change the price of the resources, but it helps me as an Amazon Affiliate.
“Hope is by far the most dangerous commitment we make in life.”
This quote by Dan Allender has shaped the direction of my blog and the direction of my life in recent years.
I’m not a person who runs toward danger. I’m the person that screams out loud at the suspenseful part of any movie. I’ve sent popcorn flying two rows down. (My sincerest apologies to the people sitting anywhere near me every time I see a movie in the theater.)
In life we have to choose between giving in to fear and fighting for hope. I’ve spent many years giving in to fear, allowing the darkness to tell me what to believe. But things have changed. These days, I’m choosing to fight.
Back in the fall I wrote Why Fight for Hope. I ended the post with this paragraph:
And the more I fight for hope, the more I suspect that there may be a badass deep down inside of me. One that doesn’t flip out at the first sign of danger, but one who owns her story with style.
My suspicions have been confirmed. The badass deep inside of me is starting to surface.
The badass I’m speaking of is not abrasive or offending. It is a feeling of courage, strength and resolve. That feeling grows the more I fight for hope, and though it is new on the surface, the seeds of badass have been there all along.
Getting back to badass is changing the way I fight for hope. Instead of being on the defense, clinging to hope, I find that now I run after hope, even when things look bleak. Instead of just surviving, I am more apt to reach out to others and encourage them in their fight for hope.
Getting reacquainted with my badass has been a journey worth sharing. To do this, I’ve created a video series called Back to Badass: Living Life with Courage, Strength, and Resolve.
Since I’ve never done anything like this before, I’d love your feedback in exchange for a sneak peek at the series. For the next 7 weeks, I’ll post a video from the series for you to comment on. These are the types of things I’m looking for:
What are 2 things you learned during this video? Am I communicating clearly? I’d love to hear your thoughts and impressions.
Would you be willing to help me sharpen my series?
I’m jumping right in with the teaser video, to give you an idea of what the series will entail.
Can you imagine what our homes and communities would look like if more people lived life with courage, strength, and resolve? I sincerely believe it would change the world.
I’m looking forward to sharing this project with you. If you know someone who would enjoy this series and would like these posts sent straight to their inbox, please encourage them to sign up for my blog in the sidebar at erinulerich.com.
Tears flowed as her shoulders slumped.
“Whenever I pray about it, things seem to get worse. It feels like God doesn’t even love me.”
I’ve been there more than once.
What about you?
Is there an unanswered prayer out there? An addiction God hasn’t taken away even though you ‘ve pleaded with Him for help?
Strength can come through struggle and our faith can grow in trials, but only if we run toward truth. Even when we don’t understand what He is doing, even when He seems silent to our cries.
The truth is that God sees, He hears, He knows. He cares.
And He is working behind the scenes in this broken world.
Keep leaning in toward him, my friend. Keep fighting for hope. The darkness may hide Him from your sight, but you are never hidden from His.
How about a touch of grace today –
A little kindness in our words, a little softness in our responses.
Instead of angry words, what if we breathed our grace onto each other?
We might discover that words of grace are words of life,
that words of grace are refreshing to our soul,
that words of grace can soften a heart and change the direction of a life.
We might discover that grace changes everything.
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The branches were loaded with blueberries.
Plenty for us to eat, plenty for the birds, plenty for the bugs.
These delicious, juicy berries remind me of the lavishness of God’s love.
He isn’t stingy. He pours out His love, grace, and mercy regardless of the way He is received.
God’s kindness leads our hearts to Him. His lavish love draws us in.
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I’m drinking out of my favorite mug today and being reminded of brokenness.
I’ll admit that I wasn’t happy when my mug broke, but now I love it because it reminds me that our brokenness doesn’t disqualify us from fighting for hope. In fact, fighting for hope in the midst of our brokenness is what makes us Hope Warriors.
Sometimes our brokenness helps us connect with others who are struggling.
Sometimes our brokenness reminds us of our need for God. Sometimes He brings beauty out of our brokenness.
But always, always, we can be awesome, broken, and brave.
Getting a second opinion is never fun. Sitting in the waiting room until they call your name is nerve-wracking. If left unchecked, my mind will run through all the possible what ifs and quickly decide there is no good outcome.
But this time, I had backup.
I glanced down at my cowboy boots, which make me feel brave, and a bit sassy. Then I placed my hand on the bracelet surrounding my wrist. I smiled as I remembered the words on the thin silver band: Hope Warrior.
I love this bracelet because it has one of my favorite phrases on it, but also because it reminds me that I can walk through unknowns like second opinions. It reminds me that I have the strength to do difficult things. It reminds me that my hope is anchored in the most capable Hands.
The Hope Warrior bracelet is one of 5 in a collection. These bracelets look great worn separately or together.
Hope Warrior, Ezer, Love Warrior
Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit Bracelet
Be Brave, Be Fearless Bracelet
She Who Is Brave Is Free Bracelet
The words we speak to ourselves convince us who we really are.
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